Undefended Love calls us to an expression of the courage and compassion needed to authentically know who we are and fearlessly share that truth with another person, to come home to ourselves, and experience the powerful joy of truly intimate loving. Marlena has been in private practice specializing in relationship issues since 1979. Psaris and Lyons' methods make so much sense; This book shows exactly how to use our biggest difficulties as the keys to becoming more deeply authentic, in love, and happily commited. Their model is really ultimately an enlightened model. Adolescence and mid-life are particularly potent passages where the creative need to self-express is open; I am especially skilled with and enjoy guiding clients through these transformational years.
Jett Psaris and Marlena S. Marlena Lyons was born in Cairo, Egypt, of French-Egyptian descent, and lived there until the age of eleven when the political climate no longer favored those of European descent. The Conscious Living Center and the authors of Undefended Love do not involve themselves in any manner in the treatment of clients who work with these guides, therapists and coaches. Jett came to the field of psycho-spiritual work in 1988, after a decade in business as an executive in several high-profile companies. Jett Psaris was born in New Jersey and was encouraged from an early age to pursue a career in business. I also work with individuals and couples. Yet it has some really good stuff in it.
The authors explain that in addition to being restrictive and constraining, holding up these inner defenses requires a lot of work and energy to maintain. It is a jewel of a book. It might be worth reading just that one chapter, and if it doesn't make sense, going back to read the rest. The material in this book is very good. If your're looking for a quick fix or a recipe for how to fix your parnter you won't find it here. These professional path partners have worked privately with us, attended our workshops, been long term members of undefended love groups, and assisted at our workshops, prior to integrating this approach into their own private practices.
The author presents the allegory of the broken toe. As we examine these patterns together, we can begin to interrupt them and embark on a journey toward a deeper connection with essential self. There aren't many books out there like this. It is only by being in the moment and feeling what is behind the personality that one can truly grow. I offer a grounded and heart centered presence while supporting your authentic self and inner knowing to flourish and guide you. However, the problem does not lie with them, it lies with us. I would highly recommend this book and the workshops to anyone who wants to explore discovering themselves and finding the true meaning of love in relationships.
In private practice since 1979, Marlena has helped individuals and couples see the difficulties of their lives as rites of passage, initiating them into ever deeper layers of their being. In Undefended Love, Psaris and Lyons go straight to the heart of what is most important to all of us: how to be in an intimate relationship that nourishes and sustains us and our partner. I use Undefended Love principles in my work with others and in my personal evolvement process. She is a Nautilus Gold Award Finalist for her first book, Undefended Love, co-authored with Marlena Lyons; and author of Taking the Midlife Leap One Step at a Time, the first online course dedicated to guiding seekers thr Jett Psaris, Ph. This provides a simple powerful model and practical tools for deep inquiry.
It seems that these methods would be easy and eye opening. As a general rule we do not censor any content on the site. This book requires much more if its readers. My approach is rooted in decades of experience as a fine arts dancer, Doctor of Oriental Medicine, Undefended Love practitioner, and Certified Integral Coach. Not everyone might be ready for it some people seem intent on focusing on the other partner with blame and other forms of struggle , but amazing shifts can happen when one focuses on oneself. For those willing to do the work, though, it will be a rewarding and potentially transforming experience. What part of your feels embarrassed hurt or shamed? Undefended Love is a book that I would recommend to anyone seeking conflict resolution and a deeper connection in their relationships.
In Undefended Love, Psaris and Lyons suggest a number of techniques to bring out our essential selves. I wonder if I can come to a point where I never get angry with my husband anymore? That said, the more people healing their inner wounds, the better! This book truly changed my life. This is the power of undefended love. The maps contained within Undefended Love are those of a faithful cartographer, struggling to understand the steps to living an emotionally liberated life, within oneself and with another. A primary assumption of t Undefended love goes way beyond the average popular psychology book. Illuminating case studies, guided self-inquiries, and challenging exercises help you discover how to engage your partner in a deeper dialogue and find ways of expressing the most profound and untamed aspects of you This book precisely maps a unique journey that turns the problems and conflicts that inevitably arise in relationships into opportunities for deeper connection. Our potential to be fully human - to be entirely ourselves in the presence of another - requires that we forge, rather than find our soul connection, compose rather than control ourselves and each other, and dissolve rather than resolve the issues that emerge in our relationships.
. Ultimately she learned that in discovering herself she felt at home everywhere. It is full of warmth and humanity, while also being a wise and insightful work that is obviously the product of real-world experience in healing broken relationships. The focus of this teleconference is on shifting our center of gravity away from our conditioned personality the places where we feel stuck, confused, hurt and defensive toward our essential self the part of us that is free, whole, connected, peaceful, powerful and joyful. The undefended path utilizes the inevitable distress and pain that is evoked in a relationship to dissolve the lifelong patterns of behavior and reactions that keep us from directly experiencing ourselves and others in an unmediated and unrehearsed way. Try your best to put these three steps together every time you are faced with a confrontation or negative situation.
This book would have been better if it came in two volumes, one for men and another for women. I would be honored to be a part of your journey. This freedom helps us live and relate from our deepest truth and the love that grows from the fertile ground of an open and receptive heart. A primary assumption of the book is that in order for change to occur you must get beyond your compensatory personality into authentic emotional experience. Its vision of direct, unmediated love could not be more original. This is the power of undefended love. Most of all, Undefended Love is about a totally new kind of intimacy that is possible when one's heart is opened to the deeper possibilities of conscious relationship.
After completing her undergraduate degree at Georgetown University, she moved to the west coast to seek her fortune. Reading it underscored my awareness of my own personal behavior well. I work with individuals and couples in San Francisco. Individual sessions are also available over the phone or Skype. This was clearly evidenced in the course, which I took in 2016, many years after she wrote this book.